According to Gallup, one of the biggest controversial moral issues that divide Americans is the issue on having sexual intercourse between an unmarried man and woman. This issue interests me because here it is taboo here in the Philippines, due to its Roman Catholic background, to have sexual relations with another before marriage while in other more developed countries such as the United States of America, it is a common practice among the citizens there.
The Church despises this action because of several reasons. One of which is the premise that premarital sex is an abuse of God’s gift of sexuality. Sexual intercourse should only be done by when a couple has been bound by the grace of God through marriage.
Other people, however, think that sexual intercourse is an expression of one’s love for another person. Thus, their conclusion based on this pries is that it is alright to have sexual intercourse with any person even before marriage, as long as he or she is willing to and as long as love is present.
Looking at the two arguments, I believe that this act can be considered both right and wrong, or neutral. This is because two different masses of people consider it to be either right or wrong.
When looking at the act from a Roman Catholic standpoint, I would consider the act of premarital sex to be morally sinful because the person, most likely, should have adequate knowledge on freedom on the action. However, because, in my opinion, the act does not necessarily cause serious harm to any of the two parties concerned, it is not a very grave sin. It would, however, be considered a grave sin if the act causes harm to a person.
Arguably, the act can also be considered harmful to the gift of life God has given us because it is an abuse of our ability to bring life into the world through our sexuality. Because we were chosen by God to be stewards of creation, we should think wisely before doing any act.
Because we are not sure whether or not we are actually committing a grave sin by harming someone through the act of premarital sex, the road of caution causes us to treat the act as morally sinful or grave.
If my friend were to ask me whether or not he should commit the act with his girlfriend, I would tell him the same things I mentioned above. He should first analyze the situation and think first before deciding whether or not he is ready to commit the act.
Since it is uncertain whether the act is sinful or not, I would tell him that it would be wise to take the road of safety or caution and think as if the act were sinful.
I would also ask him to take the road of suspicion because the act would, of course, bring him pleasure. I would make him realize that he may be biased for his decision because it is more convenient or more in favor of him.
Ultimately, I would tell him that the decision is his, and that he should consult his conscience first before he makes such a decision.